i wonder if, with some people, you only miss them because you miss the times you had with them- how things used to be. there are certain friends that i would give anything to spend more time with if our schedules worked out, but every time i do, the same things happen and i never have fun. every time i know i'm hanging out with them i get really excited and the events are really built up and everything, but it will never be how it was. it's kind of hard to wrap my head around, but undeniably true.
why do friendships have to dwindle into something that becomes stressful, like maintenance, all for the sake of saving it? things change, i know. i guess i have at least 2 friendships that have remained constant over an extended period of time; the dynamic is the same, we still get along, and we can go forever without talking to each other and have things be exactly the same when we talk or hang out again.
maybe it's a cleanse? i don't know. unfortunate and sad things end up the way they do, but that's when those few people who don't change [in a bad way] remind you that they mean the world to you.
After i graduated college i had this really horrible realization. all of my friends split different ways. some moved, some changed, some just didn't keep up on contact.
ReplyDeletehowever, i realized that there are two kinds of friends in the world. friends of the momenet and friends of forever. friends of the moment are there for that purpose, that time period and that reason. they were never meant to last more than they did. it could be beautiful or painful or downright difficult, but they don't last.
friends of forever, on the other hand, are that minute percentage of all of friendhood, the small handful that eventually last for your lifetime.
once i accepted this, i was able to let my friends go. i then began to focus my engery on new friends or on those who are still around.
anyway, that's my thought.
happy fourth girl.